DEAR ABBY: I'm afraid that my son-in-law is emotionally abusing my daughter. She was at all times a bit shy, but she was in a position to arise for herself.
I desired to say something, but each time I did that prior to now, she got offended with me.
I see her confidence waning. She has to arise to him. There have been many other cases.
How can I help her to grow to be the strong and assured woman she once was? I don't think counseling would help. She doesn't realize what's happening to her.
DEAR MUM: Talk to your daughter privately. Explain to her that you simply are apprehensive about her because she isn’t any longer the person she once was.
Give her examples of verbal abuse from her husband that you could have observed, and ask her if she believes she really deserved it. Offer (quietly) to pay for her to see a licensed counselor if she can be willing to accomplish that.
Then keep your fingers crossed that she accepts your offer and acts accordingly without telling her husband all the things.
DEAR ABBY: My son is a sophomore in college. He has been dating a woman he met at school for nearly a 12 months. Her family now not speaks to her for reasons unknown to me.
I included her in our family vacations, but later she tells my son that she thinks I don't like her.
It causes me problems once I visit him in school, which is actually because it’s my alma mater. When I’m there, she attends all of the dinners and family functions whether she is invited or not, and I’m also expected to pay for her.
My son invited her to our house without my permission and I don't want her to return.
How do I tell him that I don't want her here without causing major problems in my relationship with him?
DEAR MUM: Teach your son good manners by telling him that you simply don't want anyone to return to each family gathering and dinner without being asked first. No matter how much he likes the girl, she just isn’t a member of the family (yet).
Be sure to emphasize that you simply will not be turning them down, but this can be a formality you desire to to have observed. The two will not be an entire package.
PS: The proven fact that her family just isn’t talking to her is a warning sign that shouldn’t be ignored. Bring up this topic along with your son now.
Would or not it’s OK to contact the opposite driver to see how he’s doing? He was so polite to me on the scene of the accident. I actually feel like he was a pleasant person.
BETTER BROKEN: I do know you mean well, but before you contact this nice person, it’s best to discuss this with a lawyer to make certain there aren’t any legal consequences that you simply might regret later.
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