DEAR ABBY: My husband and I cannot agree on when we are able to rejoice our fiftieth wedding anniversary.
However, he insists that just as a baby celebrates its first birthday after living for a yr, we must “live the 50th year” before reaching our fiftieth anniversary – which he says might be June 16, 2025.
DEAR COUNTER: A wedding begins on the day of the marriage ceremony, so you’ve got actually accomplished 50 years of marriage this month. Your first anniversary – the completion of your first yr – was in 1975. Your fiftieth is in 2024.
You shouldn't must wait one other yr to rejoice such a monumental occasion. If he's not able to rejoice, ask him to only say so, but don't let him use that argument as an excuse.
DEAR ABBY: I’m fortunate to have an incredible relationship with my in-laws.
We live half a continent apart, and although we regularly video chat, we only get to see them in person two or 3 times a yr. They recently retired, and we plan to maneuver together to a brand new place that’s closer to my family and could be a snug place for them to spend their retirement.
A couple of years ago, my mother-in-law “Irene” fainted twice in someday. Since then, she has shown signs of cognitive decline. She has trouble finding words when speaking, misses words when writing, is somewhat forgetful, and has an involuntary, repetitive facial twitch. She refuses to confer with her doctor about it.
During her last visit, my husband talked to his father about our concerns about her health, and when his father talked to Irene about it, she freaked out!
Abby, I don't know what to do. We're excited to maneuver to the identical town as my in-laws in order that they can spend more time with their grandchildren, but when she's not honest about what's happening, I won't feel comfortable letting her and my easily distracted father-in-law spend time alone with our children.
I also wish to plan for the longer term to make sure we’re capable of look after Irene if her condition worsens.
If I can't address this issue together with her, it can ultimately damage the connection I'm so fortunate to have. Is there anything I can do, or should I just keep quiet?
DEAR READY: Was Irene taken to the emergency room when she collapsed twice in someday? Was her doctor not notified? Her subsequent cognitive decline may very well be related to those incidents.
It could be an actual shame if something may very well be done to enhance their condition and this was ignored.
And on a rather different topic, when you are all moving to the brand new community, it is perhaps sensible to look into assisted living facilities on your in-laws.
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