DEAR ABBY: After being a widower for several years, I met someone. We're talking about me moving into his house.
I'm going to maintain my house and never move plenty of my stuff, but leaving him here seems incorrect and taking him doesn't seem right either.
At the time of his death, his children wanted nothing to do along with his ashes. Since I haven't heard from them since his death, there's no doubt of asking them again. Any idea what I should do?
Ladies and Gentlemen: What did you wish to do with the ashes of your stays within the event of your death? Have your desires modified because you met someone recent?
Just since you haven't heard out of your late husband's children doesn't mean you shouldn't contact them one last time. Ask what, if anything, you must do along with your father's ashes. Should you send them in order that they can enjoy them as a family, or would they like you distribute them at a big location of your selecting?
Your answer will inform you the whole lot it’s good to know and you may move on without guilt.
DEAR ABBY: My wife's good friend has been going through a difficult time since her divorce.
She began dating this guy on and off a number of years ago. After the second breakup, we came upon the explanation. He was abusive (identical to her ex-husband).
They eventually moved back in together, but separated again after he poured hot cooking oil on her, which is taken into account physical abuse and, since they lived together, domestic violence. She moved away and regarded a restraining order.
Several months have passed and now we now have learned that he has moved back in!
We are frightened about her and her little daughter. Based on my experience as a former police officer, I’m convinced that she is trapped in a cycle of domestic violence. I'm afraid that more violence will break out each time.
How can friends assist in these cases? It's easy to acknowledge these cycles while you're not in them.
Explain your concern concerning the man's short temper and your concern that your child might be caught in the course of one among his violent episodes – or might be injured or killed if his anger is directed directly at the kid.
You or your wife should speak to her privately. Make sure she has the phone number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233). And emphasize that if she feels she is in peril, she will be able to not only call the police, but additionally you.
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